Roommates

You start as strangers, thrown together by fate (or necessity), and somehow, along the way, you end up learning more about each other than you ever thought you would. There are late-night talks that go from the ridiculous to the profound, shared struggles over the last slice of pizza, and those moments where you both just look at each other, silently agreeing that life is a bit of a mess—and it’s okay. Building a friendship with a roommate isn’t about playing it safe; it’s about embracing the unpredictability, rolling with the awkwardness, and discovering that sometimes the people you live with can become the people who make life a little less insane.

What Are Roommate Friends?

Friends you live with! You share a space and that makes it easy to build community together! A roommate friend is part confidant, part partner in crime, and part therapist with a cup of coffee in hand. They may drive you insane at times, but at the end of the day, they’re the family you choose, and together, you’ve turned shared spaces into memories and battles into laughter.

Should You Make A Roommate Friend?

Living with someone is like a high-stakes reality show, where you get to see each other’s true colors—good, bad, and sometimes ugly. But when it works, it’s magic. You get the convenience of having a built-in partner for adventures, gossip sessions, or just surviving the grind together. The laughter, the late-night talks, and the shared struggles of managing bills and dirty dishes create a bond that’s hard to beat. Just be prepared: when you’re living in close quarters, things can get messy—literally and emotionally.

Roommate Friend Benefits?

You’ve got a built-in partner for every late-night snack run, impromptu dance party, or binge-watching marathon. They’re there to vent to when life’s a disaster, and they’ve got your back when the landlord tries to play hardball. Plus, living together means splitting bills and chores, which, let’s be honest, is a huge win in the adulting department. You learn a lot about compromise, patience, and how to survive each other’s weirdness without actually killing each other.

The Downside & What To Watch Out For With This Friend Type:

They’re a risky business, like mixing business with pleasure—except it's your personal space, your privacy, and your sanity on the line. Living together can be the ultimate test of a friendship. What starts as easy camaraderie over Netflix and takeout can quickly spiral into passive-aggressive post-it notes on the fridge or fights over whose turn it is to clean the bathroom. People have different habits—some are tidy, others are walking disasters—and the friction of living in close quarters can expose all of those quirks you didn’t notice before. You might start out as best friends, but once they leave their dirty laundry in your room or steal your food one too many times, the friendship can quickly become a battlefield. If things go south, you risk hating where you live or not feeling comfortable/safe in your own space!

How To Build Friendships With Roommates:

Honestly, it's pretty easy! Suggesting a game night, cooking dinner and inviting them to join, or just chatting over morning coffee - living together makes connecting easy! Keeping a clean space and respecting boundaries/house rules will help you stay on their good side and pave the way to a trusting friendship.

Rating Roommate Friends

Connection Ease:

██████████ 10/10 - You literally live together - it's nearly impossible to not talk!

Shared Interests:

██████ 6/10 - Bare minimum, you have your space & lifestyle in common!

Continue The Roommate Friend Conversation:

Check out Season 1, Episode 10 "Roommates" on our podcast! Available on Spotify & major streaming platforms! You can also view this episode through our website or on Youtube.

Have a roommate story to share?! We would love to hear it! Leave us a comment or message us at hardtomakefriends@gmail.com